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Woman 2 Woman:

A segment of Encouragement from Lady J

How God Guides You to Boaz

Book of Ruth (NIV)

Chapters 1-3

As I approach my 19th marriage anniversary, I begin to think upon a conversation I recently had with a friend of mine. We were discussing the book of Ruth, the role Naomi played, and actions of Boaz. We’ve all heard or read the story of Ruth at least once in our life, but I took the time to really evaluate Ruth’s story and correlate it to my own story.

The first thing I noticed was the role of Naomi. Naomi truly played the motherly role, looking out for the best interest of her daughter-in laws. She sought to protect them and give them sound advice for the most successful outcome. In Chapter 1, she tell them to go back home to their mothers so they could be cared for since they no longer had husbands. Naomi knew life for her would be rough and trying for the days to come. Ruth did not obey. I thought to myself, Why? I believe Ruth felt she would find favor with God for taking care of her mother-in-law. This made me think of the days I spent with my aunt taking care of and being there for my late great grandmother, Madea. I think about the sacrifices I made to be there for her during her sickness until death and the days I spent just simply hanging out listening to her stories of past.

The next thing that was revealed to me was the wisdom and encouragement Naomi imparted to Ruth. In chapter 2, Ruth told Naomi of her plans to try to find “work” in the fields even though she was a foreigner in that land. Naomi could have told her No, or Wait; instead she encouraged her to step out in faith and Go. This led her into the sight of Boaz. How beautiful it is to listen to our elders and take in the wisdom and knowledge they have to offer! I remember Madea praying, reading God’s word with me, and teaching me the qualities of being a Good wife and a Good mother (before I was either one). Teaching me how to carry and present myself as a woman. She encouraged me to listen when God spoke and to step out in Faith. She taught me what to expect from a Godly man and how to develop a God loving /fearing relationship with my mate.

Naomi coached Ruth in a similar way. In chapter 3, Naomi teaches Ruth how to present herself as a Virtuous woman, suitable for marriage. Ruth’s humble character and faithful service to Naomi caused her to find favor in the eyes of Boaz. It’s funny…Madea always told me “Humble is the way”!

The story of Ruth goes on to tell how Boaz married her and they began their family. When I read the beginning of this story, I am reminded of the preparation God put me through to prepare me for my Boaz (Sullivan). I reminiscence over the long talks I had with God asking him to order my footstep before and during my marriage. I praise God everyday for showing his love for me through my husband and enjoy the fact that the closer I get to HIM, the closer I get to him (Sully).

Ladies, I say all of this not just to show how blessed I am to have my husband, but to encourage other married women to continue to strengthen their marriages. It’s also to give Hope and pass down the same Wisdom given to me to all single women. Change your focus to strengthening your relationship with God, building your character to that of a Virtuous woman, and do the things that please God.

Then and only then will you be placed in the sight of your Boaz! And when your Boaz sees you, he will shower you with the favor and love of God! Trust Me!

Be Blessed as always and Love with a Smile!

Whose calls are You Answering?

Hey everyone, I know it’s been a while, but I just wanted to drop a nugget in your spirit! I was preparing my office for my grand opening and just praising God for where he is brought me and taking me and He spoke something simple and profound to me.

I begin to think about my life…the past, the present… and the future. Though I try to live my life to please him, I fall short and through His grace and mercy I try to do and become better! I begin to ask God why he was blessing me? I know that make mistakes and sin against His will at time, yet He chose to bless me!

God answered with one simply reply….He said I spoke up and answered Him when he called me! Now I had to think about this for a moment to truly understand what He was saying.

God said to me, When I asked you to step out on faith and trust me, to do My will… You answered “present” and fulfilled my request by starting the ministry.

God said, When I told you to seek my face and deposit My Word into your knowledge bowl…you answered and was “present” attending conferences, which brought enlightenment and strengthened your anointing.

God continued to speak to me showing me over and over where I answered His call, stepped out in Faith, and acknowledged His power. Then He stated, that’s how I bestow blessings, didn’t you know!

When the woman with the issue of blood touched Jesus, He asked who it was; she answered and was blessed with her healing….Mark 5: 25-32 NKJV

When the thief on the cross next to Jesus, spoke up and proclaimed that Jesus was the true King, he was blessed with a place in Heaven and forgiven for his sins… Luke 5: 39-43 NKJV

What God is trying to tell us all is that if we truly desire the blessings and elevation that He has promised to us, we must first …




Women so many times we try to bear it all and carry it all on our shoulders. Stop, Slow down, and Submit to God. He is the only one who can solve all issues and bear every burden. HE is the one who makes room for your blessings (when you allow him). The question is will you be “present” to say PRESENT and answer to the call and Will of God?

Are you bringing the Dead back to Life?

Since we just celebrated Easter (Resurrection Sunday), I thought I should follow in the footsteps of my husband, the Rev, and discuss Resurrection as well. This is not a sermon, just a little food for thought!

After reading the Pastor’s post about Resurrection, I begin to think about things that have been resurrected in my life. I also began to think about some of the conversations I have had with some of my family and/or friends and the difficulties they have faced in their lives. At that very moment, God drop something in my spirit! RESURRECTION! I know you are saying hmmm… where is she going with this?

Have you ever thought about why YOU are resurrecting things, people, and/or situations in your life? I know you are saying ME…yes You! So many times God had answered our prayers and given us the tools to get through situations, and past people. He has removed the very thing that was holding us back, keeping us down, and separating us from HIM. We pick up that very thing that “we” laid at the altar, at HIS feet, and placed in HIS hands to take care of for us.

Are you resurrecting the very thing God laid to rest in your life? We have asked God to kill the spirit of stressfulness (knock knock at my door), impatience, loneliness, gluttony, negativity, selfishness, intolerance, depression, lustfulness, and many more… yet we resurrect, or give life to these very issues.

If you want to see change, resurrect, or give life to JOY, PEACE, PROSPERITY, and most of all LOVE in your life, then stay faithful to God and believe in what HIS word says. Know that God has never broken a promise, and everything He allows to happen in our life is for our good.

Think on Joshua 23:14 (NIV) - You know with all your heart and soul that not one of all the good promises the LORD your God gave you has failed. Every promise has been fulfilled; not one has failed.

So allow those things that are dead, to remain dead and focus on the future and the promises of God.

Remember 2 Corinthians 1:20 (NIV) - For no matter how many promises God has made, they are “Yes” in Christ. And so through him the “Amen” is spoken by us to the glory of God.

And AMEN is the benediction!

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